Be Your Own Hero!

Building & Rebuilding the ‘I am my hero’ Mindset

Are you a hero of your own?

“Who is your hero? Write two things that make this person a hero.”

An inspiring answer from a teenage girl:

“I think my hero is my parents; they’re benevolent and always support what I want to do. But, I think it will be even better if I become my own hero in the future.”

I love her answer but can’t stop thinking about what would be mine. Of course, after listening to her’s, I won’t be able to make a subjective answer without her affections.

“I am one of my own heroes; first, I continuously helped myself survive through depression, and second, I have compassion and love for myself healthily and constructively.”

Frankly speaking, I don’t think I can come up with this answer without her inspiration. That’s why more questions come to my mind; so I did some research about this question.

To my surprise, there’re as many as millions of results that either they’re encouraging people to become their own heroes or they talk about how important to recognize yourself as the hero in your own life. I didn’t realize this until further reading into the topic. There are many who say that they don’t think they are a hero. Their reasons are diverse; some say they don’t have the ability to be a hero; others say that they created chaos when they’re young, so they shouldn’t be considered a hero; some claim they’re just simply not good enough to say they are.

When I put the two parts of the results together, I have more questions come to my mind:

Why is it so hard for us to see ourselves as our own hero?

Hypothetically, maybe it is because we generally don’t see ourselves unless we are right in front of a mirror or anything can reflect ourselves; physically, we tend to look for the hero figure externally. Maybe ‘Hero’ is more of a label that we judge and put on others; it carries certain specific characteristics that we couldn’t see on our own. Maybe at some points, ‘Hero’ links with Altruism that we can’t feel close enough to the standard. Or perhaps, we are wired through evolution and being taught to find and follow the person who can protect, save, and lead us to a better place and become a better self. Or we, more often, underestimate our intangible power to be our own hero.

More or less, I would say all of the above reasons are involved. With the amount of how many articles and different media encouraging people to desire to become a hero for themselves, I believe it’s worth thinking of another question:

What would be the problems if we can’t see ourselves as the hero in our own life?

Maybe you can’t let go of what you did in the past, and you still blame yourself deep down; maybe you couldn’t see yourself without a mirror — other people’s validation, or perhaps, you can’t appreciate yourself enough for becoming who you are now. When you put these possible problems together, you will see that the underneath problem can be considered a lack of confidence and love in yourself.

How can we truly see ourselves as the ‘Hero’ in our life?

Reading others’ suggestions and developing an ‘I am my hero’ mindset could help, if you will. Before you do so, understand this:

The Mirror Effect of Your Hero

How we perceive someone as our hero usually means that person has something we learned from, inspired by, and even something they did that you considered a life-saved event. Think about these as the mirror you’re looking at; you see these excellent deeds from them, and at the same time, it reflects on you because you’re the only person who takes action, who learns and acts on those advice and suggestions to become better. Ultimately, without your Hero — yourself, who makes efforts to make changes, there would not be any better.

Remember:

No one can make you better without you; you are one of your heroes, always!

“A hero is an actual person, and legend is the story behind the hero!”

Love yourself, be your own hero, and keep creating the legend for those you love and care for! It could also benefit those you don’t even know!

Thank you for reading. I hope it helps you.