Grieving of Lost
The Emotional Process and Progress
Not every loss of someone you loved or who had once in your life that you loved them is easy to go through. Grieving is a process. It depends on how we take steps to go from process to progress. In my experiences, I believe it also depends on how they pass and how close we were with them when they were around.
It hit me hard when one of my friends, someone I was once closed with, whom I worked with closely for a few years, whom I was deeply connected with and known those hardships and struggles he had been through, passed away two days ago.
When his passing news was announced, I had not only shocked with sadness, but very complex feelings and emotions emerged. My head felt heavy, my heart felt like being ripped apart, and my energy felt so low that I didn’t even know what I could do.
Grief is never easy!
The feeling of our tightest hug clipped in; I can still feel it, and the memory became vivid suddenly. I recalled those conversations we had about work and life. Something came out from deep down, my guilt that I didn’t care too much after the very last time he told me he was fine and could deal with the struggles.
The ‘what if’ began to keep spinning in my head. What if I had reached out to him even though he said he was fine; what if I had spent more time with him; what if, if there’s anything, whatever I can have done to help him get out of that dark hole?
I prayed.
I asked God for His forgiveness.
God guides me…
To figure out that what had happened had already become a reality. Not one of these ‘what if’ can change it, let alone another thousand of them. I need to pick up the shattered pieces; I need to get back up again so that I can continue what God has for me to do, to help more people, to share my life and experiences; just to help others.
I am in the process of progress, and I know I can do this. I get better after another day; at least, I feel a little easier to smile and calmer. I am rebuilding the feeling with our memories, those we laughed together, joked together, worked hard together, enjoyed together, and every beautiful moment we spent part of our lives together.
Every one of us may take different steps and duration to turn grief into positivity, something that we remember, those sweet memories about the loved ones, and at some point after time, we healed from the grieving pain.
Some reminders for you:
If you need more time, take the time you need; keep your ultimate goal is to turn grief into positive memories.
If you have friends or loved ones who are in the process to progress, be there for them; just be there with them.
Some people are great at hiding their struggles; taking extra steps to show you truly care can help.
Process your emotions consciously; try to understand what makes you feel what you’re feeling; when you get to the bottom of the issue, you have clarity so you can handle it better.
Mental issues happen to everyone regardless of gender, race, and age. Take any unnecessary lens off you before you judge.
Thank you very much for reading.
God blesses you
